In 2011, Maddox was in maintenance phase. He was still on chemo and going to the clinic, but it afforded him a little more normalcy.
Geri and Brad, who had been thinking about having a third child, were watching Giuliana Rancic’s reality show, “Giuliana and Bill.” It detailed Rancic’s struggles with infertility and her discovery that she had breast cancer. It inspired Geri to do a breast exam, just to be sure. She found a lump.
She had it removed, and thought she was in the clear. But the tumor was aggressive and her doctor suggested chemotherapy.
“Life felt unfair,” Brad said. “How could this happen again? We weren’t even through with what Maddox was experiencing yet.”
Geri decided on a moderate chemo plan. She and Maddox were having treatments at the same hospital, and Brad would go from one end to the other to check on them.
At first, Geri was numbed by the diagnosis. She was able to be at home for most of the time while in treatment and continued taking care of Maddox. But she wasn’t prepared for how the chemotherapy would affect her.
“The steroids would change Maddox’s personality and make him irritable, but he was always a happy kid, even during treatment. He went through hell and back, but you would never know it because there was this joy and light in him, so he was always smiling,” she said. “But I had some pretty dark days during chemo and it can really break your spirit.”
Geri endured four rounds of chemo. The effects built up and made her delirious with fatigue and caused her hair to fall out. Brad took care of her and the kids as he continued working. Geri said that she never saw him lose control. She had heard stories from other mothers at the clinic who said that fathers and husbands often “check out” because they don’t know how to handle the emotional toll of a loved one with cancer.
“It only made me appreciate him even more, and I’m so thankful for him,” Geri said.
Maddox and Danika didn’t seem to understand what was happening with their mother, nor did they realize how serious it could be.
Although Geri recalls days where she broke down, Brad saw only strength in her. “She always tried to shield the kids from it and hold herself together. Geri was so strong,” he said.
Finally, in 2012, the Shepard family received good news for the first time in years: Geri and Maddox were going to be OK.
Their treatments had worked, they would be ending chemotherapy and entering remission. Maddox had endured treatment for almost three and half years, while Geri had it for three months, but they ended up finishing about the same time.
Maddox’s Make-A-Wish dream to go to Disney World was finally realized. While he was on chemo, he couldn’t even get in a public pool or play in the ocean.
“Once Maddox finished his treatment, it was like a whole new wonderful world opened up to us,” Geri said. “The first time Brad and I watched our son freely play in the ocean was a beautiful day. As you can imagine, being able to go on vacations again is a simple pleasure that we will never take for granted. In fact, after everything my family has been through, we certainly have a greater appreciation for all that is simple in this life. Our family and our good health, those are the things that truly matter the most to us.”
Although it has taken Danika, now 8, a long time to trust again after feeling abandoned by her family, the once-shy kid is now goofy, funny, outgoing, extremely social and happy. Maddox, 9, is proud of himself for beating cancer.
Geri wrote and self-published a book, “
Two of a Kind: The Story of How My Little Boy and I Survived Cancer,” about her family’s journey. But she also wanted other families in similar situations know that they weren’t alone. Initially, the Shepards felt as though this was only happening to them. But the St. Baldrick’s events brought them together with others and enabled Geri to share the story of their family by speaking about their experience.
Brad began shaving his head and raising money on a team of his co-workers six years ago. To date, they have raised almost $100,000.
“Your story just is one of many at these events,” Geri said. “When you can relate to another family, it builds this camaraderie you didn’t know was possible. And every day, it builds more confidence and hope.”